This is really beautifully written, and I can definitely relate.
I was in a relationship once with a guy who punched walls when he was angry. I had a bit of a meltdown (involving screaming into a pillow, but no punching or breaking anything) and then, I was the one who was unstable and feral.
It is incredibly infuriating how people see such differences between men and women's rage. The man is seen as passionate and emotional, whereas the woman is seen as on the verge of a breakdown.
Therefore, as I'm sure you can imagine, I got extremely frustrated by the phone call, at the end!
It's a really disheartening cycle of getting angry, not feeling allowed to, watching someone else get to act out, make an even slight attempt to do the same, get in trouble for it, and then on to being silently angry again. Unfortunately, I don't know how to fix it, or how we get out of it. It's both a comfort and disappointment that you can relate so clearly, but I'm sending you all my love just the same.
This is really beautifully written, and I can definitely relate.
I was in a relationship once with a guy who punched walls when he was angry. I had a bit of a meltdown (involving screaming into a pillow, but no punching or breaking anything) and then, I was the one who was unstable and feral.
It is incredibly infuriating how people see such differences between men and women's rage. The man is seen as passionate and emotional, whereas the woman is seen as on the verge of a breakdown.
Therefore, as I'm sure you can imagine, I got extremely frustrated by the phone call, at the end!
Beautiful - thank you!
Nicole, I can't believe I'm only seeing this now!
It's a really disheartening cycle of getting angry, not feeling allowed to, watching someone else get to act out, make an even slight attempt to do the same, get in trouble for it, and then on to being silently angry again. Unfortunately, I don't know how to fix it, or how we get out of it. It's both a comfort and disappointment that you can relate so clearly, but I'm sending you all my love just the same.
Thanks so much for reading :)